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Is He The Best For You?

                             Is He The Best For You?

      When a lady falls in love, everything around her tends to fall with her, just like a drunk man fall to the effect of alcohol. The question is, who said he is the right one or the best for you. Am not talking about a fling, or just a flash in the path, it is far from that.
He might not be the best life and love has to offer, if you really could just take time to see and think things over rationally and not emotionally, radically and not sexually. Who says you should not expect too much or be given the best out of what love and passion offers to a woman. He sometimes toils with you and get you all worked up, but you keep saying “what can i do” or “he will change soon. Do not be deceived and never hide away from a reality staring at you, because it may catch up with you when you least expect it to.

Who told you that is the best a man can offer you, he lays his hands on you at the slightest provocation, so quick to say sorry even when he knows he is not, takes you for granted, tampers and mess with your emotion every time just because you have fallen in love, has he? If he has, don’t you think things will be different?
You know what being disrespected means has a lady, but he serves it to you hot and fresh every day and you turn your loving face the other way, just because you think he is the best for you, or there is nothing better outside what he gives. Before the door closes you can still take your leave without the neighbours knowing.

The longer time you spend in this atmosphere of indecision and contemplation the deeper you fall into that reality, which carries less than what you deserve as lady/woman. Being a woman is not an excuse not to get the best out of love, friendship, passion, sex and marriage. Like a man, he always has the power of choice, who says you don’t have such powers.
Take things easy and check to know if he is the best for you. Do you see such person as a father figure or just a sexy and romantic idol? Why should he give little and get so much from you, why should you stop loving you, just to love and worship him, is he GOD? Like they say we are all small gods, believe it or not.

He never thinks of you first, but you do most times and you feel he is the best life can offer you, or the best you can get. Always remember this, “you can be wrong for days, weeks and months, but never be caught on the wrong side forever, because if you are there might be no going back”.
You stay with him out of obligation, or out of been part of a supposed culture, ideology, perception or just so that your friends won’t say you can’t keep a man, who says that is a man/guy for keeps, look beyond now and gaze into the future, something better is there for you, if only you can dare to take that bold step, tell yourself the truth, find things deep into their roots, not every fruit is worth it.
Do not make the mistake of settling for less, he may not actually be the best; check out the rest so that your mind can be at rest. Listen to both your heart and brain; there is no blind love anymore.

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10 Ways To Fight Depression

                          10 Ways To Fight Depression.

  1----One thing you must know is, the mind is a place where depression grows to eventually become a menace to the whole of your system.
So try as much as possible to engage your mind with positive activities, positive thoughts, a positive way of life and so on, just make sure your mind is not free for a depressing thought to creep in, why? cause a positive thought or activity takes you far away from whatever issues or problems facing you.

2------ You must try as much as possible to avoid anxiety and difficult issues , problems , peoples views or opinions must not be allowed to take over your mind easily,because if it does , you become too anxious which predisposes you to been depressed.

3----- When bored or moody, never try to find solace in drinks, sex, food or drugs, they only compound issues.

4------ Boredom, loneliness, idleness, low self esteem and lack of self confidence are factors that exposes an individual to depression, so to avoid it, engage in pro-active activities like "SPORTS".

5------- Have at least 2-3 mind lifting friends , keep companies that add value to your life, try to find someone you trust and respect to talk to, because depression thrives in silence, communication exposes it.

6------- Never be caught idle, because it makes the mind go astray in search of crazy and depressing thoughts .
Engage your mind with activities that keeps it focused, activities like "READING OR TAKING A WALK".

7------ A low self esteem dampens the mind, which invites depression, so to conquer depression, your self esteem must burn high like steam.

8------ If you are not confident with your self then everything people say especially the negative ones gets to you and bring the spirit down , which automatically exposes you to depression.
Build a genuine self confidence from inside you, remind yourself everyday that you are " BEAUTIFUL, BRILLIANT, INTELLIGENT AND HARDWORKING."

9------ Avoid getting ANGRY easily, don't be jealous, never house any hatred towards anyone live with a free mind,that could be all the liberation you need from depression.

10------ Don't blame yourself for whatever have happened or happening to you, this is the only way to clear your mind from all guilt and self condemnation.

------ FINALLY, TRY NOT TO WAKE UP ON THE WRONG SIDE OF YOUR BED AND IF YOU WORK PLEASE FIND TIME TO RELAX YOUR NERVES, GO OUT ON A VACATION, EITHER WITH YOUR FAMILY OR ALONE BUT JUT DO SOMETHING OUT SIDE WORK! WORK!

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